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Is Being A People Pleaser Making You Miserable?

2013-08-28 By Monica 3 Comments

Do You Say “Yes” When You Should Say “No”?

We all want to lend a hand and help out where we can, but sometimes saying yes can cost us our own happiness and peace of mind. I know I hate to disappoint people when they need help, and I may even be too much of a “people pleaser” sometimes. Do you find yourself doing the same thing?

This “can-do” attitude has certainly helped me in my career and in climbing the corporate ladder. I became the Chief Operating Officer at a managed care company before I was 35. There’s no doubt one of the biggest reasons for my success was my willingness to take on big projects and work long hours without complaining. I was the go-to person for tough assignments.

What Is That “Yes” Costing You?

My “success” came at a big price however: I missed spending quality time with my family. When I was home, I was exhausted. I had also gained some extra weight and started to experience health issues. While I earned a decent salary, it wasn’t commensurate with the amount of responsibility I had. It turned out I was too agreeable when it came to salary too. I was working hard, but not very smart. I was miserable.

How to Finally Eliminate Clutter from Your Life

2013-08-19 By Monica 1 Comment

Have you ever thought about how your clutter might be holding you back? We all have “stuff” but clutter keeps you from moving forward in your life, leaves you feeling guilty, and makes you feel overwhelmed.

Clutter includes:

Boxes of things you packed away because you don’t want to deal with them,
Items you only keep because they were a gift, inherited, or because you feel you “have to”,
Clothes in your closet that still have the tags, don’t fit, or that you never wear,
Items stored out of fear you may one day need them again, although you haven’t used them in more than a year,
Electronic clutter such as an overflowing inbox, and
Multiples of the same item.

The list could go on and on but what it comes down to is that clutter includes any item that doesn’t bring you joy or enhance your life in some way. Clutter takes up space in our lives and our homes creating unnecessary stress and chaos, and makes it more difficult for us to take care of ourselves and the people we care about.

6 Practices for Opening Your Mind to Abundance

2013-08-14 By Monica 6 Comments

Feeling Abundant by Overcoming a Scarcity Mindset

How many times have you said, “I don’t have enough time,” “I don’t have enough money,” “I don’t have enough…. love, enough friendship, enough knowledge, enough energy….enough you name it”?

I know I have found myself saying these things, especially about time. I never seem to have enough of it. I’ve been focusing on reminding myself that I have enough time and that I just need to slow down and breathe.

Any time we focus on scarcity, lack, or limitation, we lose focus of our own abundance and actually make things worse instead of better. Stephen Covey coined the term “scarcity mentality” for this principle in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Covey says, “People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that means there will be less for me.”

21 Inspirational Quotes That Will Help You Create More Harmony In Your Life

2013-08-07 By Monica 8 Comments

Increasing Harmony In Your Life Brings Peace and Happiness

When we live in harmony with our authentic selves and align our work, habits, relationships, money, thoughts, and actions with our true values, we experience a greater sense of peace and happiness in every aspect of our lives. We are able to achieve things that before, we could only dream about.

When we’re not in harmony in these areas, we experience more fear, feelings of lack and limitation, restlessness, doubt, and dissatisfaction with our lives. Over time, this causes a strain on our health, our relationships, our sense of well being, our careers, and keeps us from achieving our full potential. Living in harmony is a practice – it’s a conscious choice of how we want to live.

Some of the greatest writers and philosophers have pondered a life lived in harmony. Here are some of their best quotes on the topic. What is your favorite quote or thought on harmony? Please share it in the comments below.

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