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Last week I had the Monday of all Mondays. The kind of day that gives Mondays a bad name; when everything that can go wrong does go wrong.
First, my car wouldn’t start. I had to take it to the shop, which caused me to forget I had scheduled coffee with a friend. My phone died, so I wasn’t able to work at the repair shop. Then I spent the day trying to catch up, feeling frantic and frenzied. We’ve all had one of these days. [Read more…] about Relax and Be Present With This Simple Ritual
I always love the new year, it feels like a fresh start and an opportunity to make the upcoming year even better than the year before. Because of this sense of renewal, New Year’s Eve is definitely one of my favorite holidays. I don’t spend it out celebrating. Instead, I choose to spend New Year’s Eve in quiet reflection, looking back at the previous year and planning for the new year. Over time, I have compiled a process for reflection and have found the process to be invaluable. Here are four simple exercises followed by a reminder to celebrate your year: [Read more…] about Reflecting On Your Year
LifeOhm.com Turns Two Years Old Today!
While I’ve been blogging for more than six years, my favorite project, LifeOhm, is now two years old!
[Read more…] about LifeOhm Turns Two Today, and We’re Giving Away a Kindle to Celebrate!
“Life is not about making others happy. Life is about sharing your happiness with others.” ~Everyday Life Lessons
Do you want to be happier and more productive at work? Martin Seligman, a positive psychologist and author of Authentic Happiness, concluded that happier people get better performance evaluations and higher pay. Other studies have shown that happy people are more positive, creative, tolerant, constructive, generous and non-defensive. They also have lower medical costs and less absenteeism. Here are five things you can do to increase your happiness and productivity at work:
1. Focus on people and relationships: That’s really what it’s all about – good relationships with your family, your clients, and your co-workers. Take the time to connect with others and you’ll find more meaning in your career as well as improve your happiness.
2. Celebrate Often: Many people delay happiness until they reach a certain goal, close that big sale, or list that dream property. Studies show however that the happiness from these seemingly “big events” is short lived and that true happiness is more about frequency than intensity.
While it’s simply not possible to be happy all the time, research shows that people who are happy 80% of the time are the healthiest, most successful, and live the longest. To get to that 80%, you need to take time to celebrate the little things.
3. Feel and Express Gratitude: This is the single most effective thing you can do each day to increase your happiness. Simply taking the time to appreciate what you already have, the people in your life, and the opportunities that present themselves to you will significantly increase your happiness, even if you do nothing else.
4. FOCUS and Stop Multi-Tasking: While checking email while your on the phone or texting during a sales meeting might feel like you are getting more accomplished, multi-tasking actually slows performance, increases mistakes, and over time causes you to lose your ability to focus when you need to.
You will find that your happiest times at work may be when you are in the “flow.” Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by complete absorption in what one does. Interruptions and mult-tasking disrupt the flow process.
5. Be “Actively Optimistic” : Happiness is a choice and the whole concept of “Fake it till you make it” has been shown to work for increasing happiness. Take a few minutes to write down your best possible future, visualize it and feel it. Describe it in breathtaking detail, creating the full experience. Some of the most successful atheletes in the world use this technique because it works.
What are your techniques for increasing your happiness and productivity at work? Share your thoughts below.
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“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” ~Oprah Winfrey
You don’t have to wait for birthdays or Christmas to celebrate, you can celebrate daily accomplishments, events, or things you are grateful about. Looking for ways to celebrate things in your daily life is a great way to increase the joy and happiness in your life and in those around you.
“Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God.”~Mary Manin Morrissey
Start adding more celebration to your life today with these five suggestions:
1. Enjoy Small Celebrations
A celebration doesn’t have to be a big event. It can be as simple as allowing yourself a warm cup of coffee after a task well done, a moment of quiet reflection after a busy day, a manicure or pedicure, using the good china, buying fresh flowers, or just stopping to take a photograph to record a special time.
According to Merriam-Webster, celebration is “marking one’s pleasure at an important event or event by engaging in enjoyable, often (but not necessarily) social activity.” Celebration is just making the time to acknowledge and feel joy over events in your life, both large and small.
2. Celebrate Fun Observances
There is a holiday for almost anything – National Donut Day (First Friday in June), National Hugging Day (January 21), World Poetry Day (March 21). Some observances have significance, others are just silly and fun. They are all opportunities to add a moment of joy and celebration to your life.
Last year, my fiance and I celebrated Pi Day on March 14th by sharing a delicious piece of chocolate pie at a local pie restaurant. We had a great evening out, nice conversation, and a break in our regular routine, all because of a mathematical symbol that has the same name as a very tasty dessert. Neither of us had celebrated Pi Day in the past but there is no doubt this will become an annual ritual for the two of us.
There are many websites with lists of fun observances including Brownielocks.com.
3. Use a Celebration Plate
One early American tradition that you can use in your household to observe special events is to have a special plate. When a friend or family member has a birthday, or a just a reason to celebrate such as passing a test, getting a student-of-the-month award, or anything significant, they get to dine from the family celebration plate. It’s a small gesture but one that can go a long way in making someone’s day special.
The plate doesn’t have to be anything fancy, or it could be, depending on your personal tastes. It could be a special color – bright red or yellow, or a fine piece of china. Several companies also make specific celebration plates that you can buy and use, or you could make your own.
Using a Celebration Plate
4. Give an Unexpected Gift
Surprise someone you care about with an unexpected gift – maybe a movie they will love and a box of popcorn, a book, flowers, or some handmade chocolates. You can also include a short note expressing your feelings.
5. Plan to Celebrate
For many of us, the month of December has many opportunities for celebration – holiday parties, family dinners, tree lighting ceremonies, and special church services.You can add celebration to the rest of your year as well. To get started, take a few minutes to identify ways to add celebration to your own life by creating your own Celebration List:
Check back to your list periodically and mark important dates on the calendar.
Celebrating life’s blessings doesn’t have to be expensive, time consuming, or difficult. It’s just a matter of seizing the opportunities that present themselves to us every day.
“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” ~Mother Theresa
Now that we’ve made it through Thanksgiving, it seems like holiday shopping is on everyone’s mind. We all want to find the perfect gift for those we care about and it can really end up being quite stressful, especially if you wait until the last minute. Here is a list of five things you can do today to help make your gifts more unique and thoughtful.
1. Determine Your Budget – for the holiday season and then for each individual and stick to it. A small budget may require you to be more creative but a great gift is still possible.
There are plenty of great low or no-cost gift options as well such as giving someone your copy of your favorite book, a certificate for some of your time for babysitting, dog-walking, knitting lessons, or making something homemade (see ideas below).
My friend Kathirynne also wrote a great article on Phenomenal Gift Giving on a Less-Than-Phenomenal Budget.
2. Brainstorm and Personalize – take a blank piece of paper and a few minutes to brainstorm the interests of your gift recipient. Once you have a good list, then you can really personalize the gift, a key component for thoughtful gift giving. Some ideas may include:
3. Consider Giving Clutter-Free Gifts – It seems like we all have too much “stuff” in our lives and giving a clutter-free gift is a great way to help simplify your gift recipient’s life. Some great clutter-free gift ideas include:
4. Consider Homemade – Close friends and family will appreciate a thoughtful homemade gift such as jelly, sauces, salsas, soaps, scarves, candles, or some scented sachets made with herbs from your garden.
5. Include a card with a heartfelt message. This is perhaps the most overlooked way to make a gift thoughtful. Taking the time to write a personal message in your card tells the person they are important and that you cared enough to personalize the card. Consider telling them what you appreciate most about them or thank them for specific contributions they made during the year.
Psychologists have been able to show that the act of gift giving benefits both the giver and the receiver. This year, take the time to make your gifts thoughtful and heartfelt, enjoy the spirit of the season, and help spread feelings of love and caring with each gift. Happy Holidays!
